Wednesday, October 12, 2011

A Blessing in Disguise

Well... today I had my first ever encounter with Army Wife Drama (I shall shorten that to AWD). I think for being an Army Wife for over 3 years, this isn't too bad to just have my first encounter now. Of course we all hope it never comes along, but there is always someone out there that has to ruin it!

Anyway, I'm not here to talk about what that AWD was... I'm here to talk about what this particular spouse knew about me. Something I haven't told a lot of the spouses here- that I am banded! I haven't ever been ashamed of my band. I've been ashamed that I already need it at 22 years old. I'm sad that I let my body become so toxic. But, I'm happy I'm on my way to fixing it! Hallelujah!

So the spouse that was on the other end of this AWD is one of the few that ended up knowing about what I underwent a couple of weeks ago. And after it all went down today, I got terrified that everyone in the unit will now know that I had a weight loss surgery. Since she has shown me her true colors today, I have this feeling it wouldn't be beneath her to gossip about me, and to share something I told her in confidence.

And then it hit me. It was if I heard God himself whisper in my ear-

"Just embrace it."

I think today is the first day, that I'm kinda done caring about what people think of me. I'm not perfect, I'm only human. So of course there will ALWAYS be someone who would like to think they will benefit from my mistakes. And I know I'll have off days, where I will feel sensitive, and vulnerable to what others have to say/think. But I am praying that I can hold on to this feeling of refreshing self-confidence that I have tonight. 

Something my mother said to me tonight- "How does that saying go Kelly? If someone is talking about you behind your back, it just means you're two steps ahead of them!" 

Why bother caring about that petty crap anymore. I truly almost broke down tonight all because of one Army Wife. How could I let someone have that affect on me!? 

So, her raunchy ways, were a blessing in disguise for me tonight. Because guess what- 

I'M BANDED! And I don't really give a flying... squirrel what anyone has to say about it! =) 

Oh... and AWD can suck it =* 


  1. Looks like making the decision to be banded has already helped you make other changes! It's so great that your self confidence is strong and that you understand it's only your own reaction you can control, not what others do or say. And remember, what they say/do is usually more about their own insecurities than about you. Most people will be supportive and positive - focus on them and not the negative ones.

  2. Great post and you're right ... life does go on for anybody ! What are you holding in your blog-hand? is it dog-tags? If so - how cute !

  3. As the wife of a retired Air Force officer I can tell you the gossip runs rampent on the base/post. However, It helped me to learn how to keep things to myself and to accept that when people get "ugly" it is their problem not mine. You will move on in the army and always have a new set of people. It's a great life and you will learn so much!

  4. Hello. Thanks for following :) I like to read about people close to my age too, so I'll be sure to check out your blog and get caught up with your journey thus far.

  5. Well said...I was an Army wife for 4 years and I know exactly what you mean about the drama. Just continue to take the high road and don't let yourself get caught up in of the great things about the Army is that you will make the most amazing friends along the way and you can always know that if there is someone you don't get along with one of you will be moving soon!

  6. Cece- those are dog tags =D

    Even in high school I never really dealt with this kind of drama. But so far- this little bit of an unfortunate event has made me stronger, and willing to embrace my band further =)

    Thanks for the on-going support dear ladies!!

    A special "holla" to you fellow military wives ;)